My daughters are sharing an apartment currently and the fights and arguments going on right now are just ridiculous.

I’m always pulled into the middle and then accused of picking sides.

They are 22 and 20 years old, but you’d think by now they would have learned how to talk to each other without all the bullshit rudeness or the need to WIN or the competitiveness going on.

Currently, the 20 year old has a friend who popped in randomly and asked to stay for a week or so. Now, the 20 year old established rules when the 22 year old brought her boyfriend around. If someone is going to be at the house let the other person know. Which 20 year old did not do. Sister got home in the morning to find friend asleep on couch with vibrator on table. Lovely to walk into that scenario and not know who the person is…

i stepped back and hoped 20 year old would see the situation for what it was…..Its a 2 bedroom apartment and I already have my not boyfriend and best friend staying here and my sister is here so theres already 4 of us here…..a friend staying the night should be cool but a week or so…not enough space, gonna cause issues.

Did she figure it out on her own…of course not. Mom had to step in and of course mom got accused of picking sides, yet again.

Why do they act like such children. The 22 year old thinks shes establishing boundaries and being respectful but independent and doesnt realize she can also be condescending when shes doing that.

Neither of them think they are doing or saying anything wrong. So its all about being right of course.